The Didion Project
On honeymoon in Mexico, in Quintana Roo coincidentally, the auction of Joan Didion’s private collection was taking place in New York. Being a huge Didion fan, I couldn’t help but check in on it and catch bits here and there, while still staying mostly disconnected throughout our trip.
Carry a book with you always: how I rediscovered reading for fun and read 47 books this year after not reading much at all
In 2020, I read the newspaper almost every day, I wrote nearly nothing, and I read less than five books. And you know what? It was FINE. Because you can really just do whatever you want. There is no book police. And oh how I fell in love with the newspaper.
How to never apologize to a trans person
Apologies are the worst. No one likes to make them, no one even really likes receiving them. Apologies can be awkward, defensive, and uncomfortable. The best apology is the one you don’t have to make. Especially when it comes to trans people.
I wrote 30,000 words in October and intentionally deleted the whole thing
I wrote more than 30,000 words this month, which is by far the most I’ve ever written in a month. And an hour ago, I hit delete. Intentionally. Because what I wrote doesn’t matter and I don’t want it to. Because I wrote to be writing.
Let's Talk About Visibility
I first realized my gender identity when my kid saw me a little different than I was able to see myself. She was only 6 at the time, but she knew that identity is expansive. She knew that gender isn't determined at birth by everyone else, but it's something that finds its way into a person's deep understanding of who they are and how they fit in the world. I'm pretty sure she personally identified as a Disney Princess at the time, so this made a lot of sense to her and she called me out.